Friday, February 25, 2011
Monday, February 21, 2011
This seminar sounds awesome if you want to help open up the opportunities in your life. I read a review over at Maneandchic.com:
Even thought I'm not a single, I think I will head on over and take a listen.
"I strongly believe that listening to this will be transforming to anyone open to hearing the message whether you're in a relationship or not. I truly believe that if you put some of the methods into practice, that you will transform every relationship in your life and really transform the most important relationship in your life: the one you have with yourself. Of course, the theme is heavily focused on singles looking for love, but if you can look at the bigger picture, you will get so much out of it."
Monday, January 24, 2011
This is a must needed discussion. Hosted by One Luv... with Special Guest Host Melani N. Douglass.
Art Showcase by One Luv...
Open Wine Bar & Food.
$5 8-9pm, $10 after
Thursday, January 20, 2011
Monday, November 22, 2010
We’ve all heard stories about people who lock eyes across a crowded room and know for sure they’ll marry each other. They are soul mates, right? Could be. But that’s not the only way you meet them, and it’s certainly not always instant love. Toss your preconceived notions about soul mates and learn what the experts say. It may surprise you.
Soul mates are matches made in heaven. According to Yale Chaplain Rabbi James Ponet, traditional (Judeo-Christian) ideas about soul mates are summed up in this 2nd Century story:
A wealthy Roman matron says to a rabbinic sage, “Since your Creator God made the universe in seven days, what’s he been doing since?” The Sage replied, “He’s been making couples.” The Roman woman says, “I can do that!” She proceeds to command one hundred slaves to be coupled off and sends them to a great dwelling. After one night, the place is in shambles; the couples have fought and degenerated into chaos. In defeat and shame, she goes back to the Sage and says, “Oh, that’s no minor thing that your God does.”
And that’s why it is common to believe that marriages are made in heaven. In Hebrew the word is B’shert — roughly translated as “beloved” or “The One.” This is where the basic idea of soul mates originates.
Soul mates are not a one-shot deal. Don’t panic. You didn’t miss meeting your soul mate when you skipped going to that party last weekend. Soul mates find you if you’re open to them. Besides, you don’t have one great love — you have many potential great loves. According to New York Minister and Psycho-Spiritual
Counselor, Susan Lemak, soul mates are profound soul connections in your life.
When you’re with one, you stop looking, so you’re not aware of the other potential soul mates around you. While you’re thinking how hard it is to find The One, the reality is that it’s hard for you to choose. A soul mate is someone who reflects or matches your energy and your path in life. A soul mate is someone whose power and potential are complementary to your own. And you’ll find them in the most unlikely places. Lemak adds, “You know that great person sitting near you at work? The one who makes you laugh, but might be 10 pounds overweight? Maybe not the coolest person — but dig a little deeper. You could find a soul mate in there.”
Soul mates are about work, not play. The word “soul” opens a gigantic can of karma. While dating and light relationships are all about fun and playfulness, soul mates are all about deep emotional support, trust and faith. When you choose to go deeper with someone, you’re opening yourself up — you become emotionally vulnerable. Susan Strong, San Mateo-based astrologer and metaphysical counselor jokes, “Sometimes our soul mates become our cross to bear. You marry someone who is your soul mate and, over time, you realize you’re connected not just through chemistry, but because you are there to help each other.”
Most guys don’t think about soul mates, no matter what The Bachelor says. Strong also considers the very concept of soul mates a more feminine event. “Men don’t look for soul mates nor do they really think about meeting their soul mate. Sure, a man can be in a happy, committed, connected relationship, but he won’t necessarily tell his friends that he’s with his soul mate.” Women are more aware of a soul connection because they are more introspective in that way. Women need to feel a deeper connection with a man. That soul connection is there — but men just don’t define it.
Soul mates are not necessarily permanent. Like the ending of a fairy tale, we’re often raised to believe that a soul mate is our “happily ever after.” How old were you when realized that fairy tales don’t come true? Soul mates are certainly considered the prince charming and his princess of modern romance. Yet what happens if your romance goes sour — that soul mate turns out to be a mismatch? Of course you’re not out of luck. You move on, heal, and open up to the next soul mate. If you look at the traditional idea of soul mates, your beloved, you’ll realize that a
higher force may have more than one love in store for you. To love someone and
be loved is a deeply spiritual state.
In the words of St. Theresa of Avila, “Accustom yourself continually to make many acts of love, for they enkindle and melt the soul.”
Astro-coach Barrie Dolnick helps people find love and happiness by understanding their stars and their karmic energy. She is the author of twelve books, including Enlighten Up! and KarmaBabe.
Thursday, September 23, 2010
Monday, July 12, 2010
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
Slim Thug says:
"...Most single Black women feel like they don’t want to settle for less.
Their standards are too high right now. They have to understand that
successful Black men are kind of extinct. We’re important. It’s hard to find
us so Black women have to bow down and let it be known that they gotta start
working hard; they gotta start cooking and being down for they man more.
They can’t just be running around with their head up in the air and passing
all of us.
I have a brother that dates a White woman and he always be fucking with me about it saying, 'Y’all gotta go through all that shit [but] my White woman is fine. She don’t give me no problems, she do whatever I say and y’all gotta do all that arguing and fighting and worry about all this other shit.'..."
Marc Lamont Hill's Response here> An open letter to Slim Thug TheLoop21.com
I mean... the dude's name is "Slim Thug." I imagine a dude who is working hard to fill the prototypical shoes of his celebrity caricature would struggle to gain the deep rooted affection of a female who is not filling the shoes of his prototypical counterpart (let's call her woman A). And the woman who is his prototypical counterpart (woman B) doesn't have deep rooted affection to offer. She will never be down for any dude. She's playing the games and her anthem is "look at me" and "get money." And she may just write a book about you later Mr. Thugs.
The woman B, who is attracted to the cheddar he may/may not use as bait, is not a woman who is attracted to success, or even values success. Money and success ARE NOT THE SAME. A woman who is attracted to money will want a baller who makes it such that she don't have to do jack but look good and "perform" whatever... That woman has high standards for the type of life she desires- full of chilling, and shopping, and being fantabulously fly- getting over on a dude. If you are not the dude who can do that for her with your money (and the MOST money), Mr. Thugs, she is passing you by. And good riddance.
Likewise, women A, who IS attracted to success also has high standards. To her, your success is rooted in your happiness, your goals, your contribution to society and your presence as a joy in her life. Mr. Thug, your absentminded regurgitation of misogynist theme music and the gaggle of tempting grade B prototypes on your tail are not meeting her standards. Will you really be able to make her happy? Be with her? For real? Will you call her and be on time and respect her enough to gain her trust and loyalty? Maybe you can Mr. Thugs. Maybe you are a good man who wants what she wants. But she can't see you. Her standards are too high to see through your theme music.
So I mean, I am not mad at him.
I'm feeling bad that he's cloaked by his industry and his and his peers lyrics.
I'm feeling bad that type B women abound(!) and that many young black girls are now absentmindedly playing that theme music for thier own lives, collecting self fullfilling baggage and memories to make them jaded and distrustful of men for the rest of thier lives.
I'm feeling bad that there is a good guy in a club right now with the baller outfit on, who thinks he looks "successful" but doesn't have as big a watch on as the other baller, or his sneakers aren't the freshest thing out.
I feel bad that the grade B women are peeping him- making him feel sexy, but picking the other, bigger baller to expend their affections on.
I feel bad that at the same time, the grade A women are not peeping him because he's in a club and/or they see the baller outfit and the gaggle of B's they think he's after. He doesn't look successful to them.
And he's confused. And she's confused. Because he's not a baller, and he wants to be successfull, and she doesn't want a baller, she wants someone to love her.